I ran across this on Facebook and must admit that I WHOLE-HEARTEDLY disagree with everything about this statement.
This mentality is why so many relationships fail. If you think you’re going to spend the rest of your life with someone and never feel like you’ve lost chemistry, you will spend a lot of your life alone and/or unhappy. The opposite is true, in my opinion – when the chemistry is gone, the history is ALL that matters… And it is what should drive you to start studying one another, focusing on one another, and spending your energy on getting the chemistry back.
People lose chemistry because life gets REAL and the newness fades and when that happens, LOVE is what keeps you together. Love is not always going to be sparks and goo-goo eyes. You’re not always going to feel connected. There will be ups and downs and in the downs, I can ASSURE you the chemistry will NOT be there. But the history will be there and the love that has been built through that history will be there.
It’s sad that y’all keep buying into this dumb shit and sharing it for everyone else to get even more confused about relationships than they already are. Y’all are out there wishing on stars and expecting to live happily ever after.
Life is not a fairy tale… grow up and stop believing that happiness is supposed to mean that you will never cry yourself to sleep, or that you will never be so mad that you question why you ever committed yourself to this person, or that you will never feel like you are lost and don’t know what to do! Stop telling yourself that someone who loves you will never say anything hurtful to you or never let you down. People are HUMAN and as such, they will be flawed.
I’m starting to believe that most people just are not mature enough to understand the value of a truly committed relationship – or the importance of never letting “I QUIT” be an option. Through 18 years of being with my husband, chemistry has come and gone depending on circumstances but when we could have given up, our history and our love have always made sure we come out on the other side – TOGETHER!