I’m a pretty simple woman in a lot of ways. I’m not a high maintenance type. I don’t do big gifts – as a general rule, I don’t want them and I don’t give them. I would much rather invest money in experiences than rack up a bunch of stuff. I mean, except for shoes… a girl can never have too many pairs of 6″ stilettos LOL As high as my expectations are in almost every area of life, on the day that celebrates me as a mother, I don’t need anything additional because I get everything I could possibly ask for every day of the year. When it’s his month home, I barely cook. I rarely go grocery shopping. He tends to the kids. He makes the decisions. He gives me rest and makes sure that I’m ready to take it all on before he goes back offshore.
As simple as I am, I can be quite complex in certain ways. I’m quite sure there have been days over the last 18 years when my husband has wondered if it’s really worth all the effort… because being with me requires a lot of effort. I’m the type that is down for my man through thick and thin, but I have expectations of what the person I share my space with is going to have to fulfill for me. And by expectations, I mean demands. I am not one to do well with settling… I don’t ask for much, but the things I do ask for, I will not bend on. I compromise where it’s necessary, but there is no compromise in those particular areas.
I will be respected. I will be cherished. When I need my space, I will be left alone. When I need a little something extra, I will be held. I will be free to be who I am. I will be loved. I will come first. I will be appreciated. My feelings will be considered valid. I have no qualms about demanding these things because this is how I treat him.
I have seen a lot of lopsided relationships and I never quite understood the reason people stay in them. If I’m putting in work for us, I expect for the other party to be putting in work, too. If I’m giving my best effort, I expect the same. This is why I treasure what I have in my marriage. He acknowledges me in every way… he’s patient with me, attentive, and he lets me know that he’s proud of the life he’s built with me. My husband meets me halfway.
I love him for that.
What’s This Series About Anyway??
I believe that strong marriages rely on three key elements:
- Love – unconditional
- Communication – uninterrupted
- Affirmation – uninhibited
Everything else stems from how healthy the couple is in those three areas. Because of this, I’ve started communicating my love for my husband through weekly affirmations… those simple statements of truth that let him know I see all the ways he expresses his love for me. I’ve written a lot about what kind of wife I am and how I love and support my husband. This is the other side of that :)
Read them all by clicking here: What I’m Loving!