A lot of reflecting this morning… Our life has been hard, in many different ways. The lack of support we had starting out was … whew. Well, let’s just say that if it were the opposite and we had as much SUPPORT as we had OPPOSITION, our story wouldn’t have been so difficult to write. The pages we’ve added to the book of our life have been bound not by staples and glue, but by tears and sweat. It’s not written in ink, but in blood. It’s not decorated with frilly doodles and flowery quotes, but with barbed wire and fire. We didn’t just walk into the life we’re living. We’ve got scars to show for this shit!
Before I go any further, let me just make it clear that I am not in any way an arrogant person. I’m not prideful. But sometimes I feel like people should know how their own words taste. The people you force-feed your negativity to have to taste those words immediately. And while those words might taste a little tart right then – while they may burn going down, I assure you that they’ll be much more bitter once that plate comes back around to you… You see, when you’re throwing words out at others trying to destroy their spirits, you rarely consider the possibility that you might have to eat those words one day. So here’s that plate…
It’s ironic how the ones who tore us down with their words are still doing the same shit they were doing back then and we’ve yet to stop moving forward. Be careful what you say, how you judge… Keep in mind while you’re convincing yourself that you’re better than someone – trying to hold people down only makes them fight harder to rise above. When you tell someone they won’t amount to much, what you may not realize is that a lot of people will accept that as a challenge. Y’all messed up when you gave us a reason to prove you wrong.
When you belittle a person’s ambition or tell them what they can’t do, you might just be talking to a fighter and not even know it. Those kind of words will benefit a fighter lol Negativity has its own energy and the last thing a STRONG person is going to do is waste energy. So that negativity you are speaking into someone else’s life just might end up being converted into fuel and used to support their drive toward success. There are those willful ones who will only use your venom as motivation to press harder toward what you think they can’t achieve! So many people turned their backs on us… talked about us… laughed at us… called us stupid… said we’d never be shit.
How are those words tasting now?
Think before you speak. If what you have to say doesn’t inspire someone to be their best self, swallow your words and save yourself from eating a bitter version of them later.
That being said, that negativity made me a better person. A few weeks ago, after spending an hour helping a couple whose car broke down in the Walmart parking lot – calling a friend who is a mechanic to come help, putting their babies in my truck so they weren’t out in the heat, entertaining the older child and encouraging the lady who was overwhelmed and in tears – the young lady thanked me and asked what made me want to hang around and make sure they were okay. My only response was that I always feel compelled to do what I wish others would have done for us when we needed it.
If more people would lend a hand instead of laughing and pointing when they see someone in a hard situation, the world would be a much better place. Life is not a competition. We’re all just trying to make it through the best way we know how and in the end, we will all end up dead.
“People take different roads seeking fulfillment and happiness. Just because they are not on your road does not mean they have gotten lost.” ~Jackson Browne
I love this quote because it allows us all to be human. All anyone wants is to be happy – to be fulfilled. Yet, we judge one another for the avenues taken to obtain happiness and fulfillment. Why? Let others live and demand that they allow you to do the same. At the end of my life, no one is responsible for the level of misery in my cup and no one is responsible for the level of joy. The degree to which I drink from each of those is of no consequence to anyone but myself.
Don’t allow the world to tell you how you should be happy. Be your own happy. Be genuine. Not everyone will be on your road. Hell, there are times when I can’t find the road I’m looking for and I’ve got to MAKE one… If I’ve got to get a little dirty before I can be on my way, you might run across me in the midst of a bunch of blood, sweat, and tears – and while all you might see is a mess, I see progress.
Do you today. Do you everyday.