My adolescence was peppered with questionable choices and a good bit of time spent in various juvenile lockups… I got expelled from 7th grade, tested out of 8th, started 9th at a private school but halfway through the year I was expelled from there as well. After I exhausted all the chances I was given to straighten up, my probation officer revoked probation and had me committed to Columbia Training School’s boot camp program. When I was released, it was ONLY on the condition that I would not return to Stone County until I was no longer under the youth court system. At the time, it seemed like the worst thing they could have done to me. Turns out, it was absolutely the best.
September 4, 1997 was my third day out of court-mandated military school and my first day at a traditional high school. Walking into third period, I had no idea that encountering this cocky football player would change the course of my entire life. It has been almost 18 years since I first laid eyes on this man.
Three and a half years later, he gave me his last name. That was nearly 14 years ago and over that span, I have changed over and over, gradually yet drastically. No matter how many of “me” he has gone through over the years, he has loved me just the same as he did when he fell for me at barely 15 years old. Even when he struggles to figure me out – even when he gets frustrated at never being able to really get me “pegged” he understands the importance of me being free to explore myself. My husband accepts whoever I am when I wake up each morning and supports whatever I happen to be into at any given time!
I love him for that.
What’s This Series About Anyway??
I believe that strong marriages rely on three key elements:
- Love – unconditional
- Communication – uninterrupted
- Affirmation – uninhibited
Everything else stems from how healthy the couple is in those three areas. Because of this, I’ve started communicating my love for my husband through weekly affirmations… those simple statements of truth that let him know I see all the ways he expresses his love for me. I’ve written a lot about what kind of wife I am and how I love and support my husband. This is the other side of that :)
Read them all by clicking here: What I’m Loving!