This morning was quite emotional. I woke up to messages from two friends and a family member basically asking me if my husband was still alive. This is the second time this has happened since he started working offshore five years ago. Immediately I started Googling to find out anything I could about the explosion that happened on an oil rig in the Gulf of Mexico and thankfully found that it was a platform owned by a corporation out of Mexico. My relief turned to fear, panic, and anxiety as I realized that this could have been a tragedy for my family. It turned to empathy and grief as I realized that it was a tragedy for 20 families just like mine – families who send their sons, husbands, cousins, uncles, brothers, and fathers off for weeks at a time to risk literally EVERYTHING to earn a living. All men like my husband…
Every morning, I wake up to find a message from my husband, all saying basically the same thing and all with the same purpose – to let me know he’s okay and that he’s thinking of me. To put a smile on my face when I wake up. This morning, however, I cried and cried, grateful that this morning’s message wasn’t the last one that I would get from him, but heartbroken that for four other families of men who also work in the Gulf, the last message they received is the last message they will ever receive. That is sobering. It’s a devastating reminder that life is short – that things happen that you never think will happen to you… that not everyone lives to reach old age; not everyone dies peacefully in their sleep. Not everyone will be around tomorrow.
Sometimes I take time for granted. I don’t always pay attention when he’s talking to me. I don’t give him enough credit a lot of the time. I don’t give him my undivided attention and I don’t always notice the small things he does. But this morning, if something had happened to him, the last conversation I would ever have had with him would have been him telling me to teach him how to do our daughters’ hair so I can sleep in when he gets home. Out of nowhere. After years of him using the fact that he didn’t know how to do hair to get out of having to do hair LOL So today, I recognize that he changes in the smallest, yet most significant ways completely out of the blue because he considers me.
I love him for that.
What’s This Series About Anyway??
I believe that strong marriages rely on three key elements:
- Love – unconditional
- Communication – uninterrupted
- Affirmation – uninhibited
Everything else stems from how healthy the couple is in those three areas. Because of this, I’ve started communicating my love for my husband through weekly affirmations… those simple statements of truth that let him know I see all the ways he expresses his love for me. I’ve written a lot about what kind of wife I am and how I love and support my husband. This is the other side of that :)
Read them all by clicking here: What I’m Loving!