It’s been 29 weeks since my last “What I Love About My Husband” post… and perhaps that says something. Life often gets so chaotic, so hectic that even though you maintain a relationship – a bond – even the most well-intentioned couples can easily find themselves feeling somewhat detached. Unmoved. My husband worked his ass off last year. Out of 12 months, there was only ONE offshore hitch that he didn’t work an extra week, which was during football season (he’s a coach) and it didn’t lend itself to much free time for us to really connect.
With so much responsibility on both of our shoulders, we found ourselves communicating less and most of our “talk time” was more idle chit chat, filling the minutes with mundane ramblings and thoughtless conversation than depth. I found myself growing more and more anxious, feeling less and less supported, and fell into a cycle of being overwhelmed with life. I know at this point you’re probably wondering, “Where is she going with this? Isn’t she supposed to be talking about her husband?” Well, I’m getting to that.
I’ve heard it said that not everyone loves the same way, that you have to learn to let others love you the way they know how. So I tried. And I failed. I need to be loved in a way that makes me fulfilled… and I don’t know how to settle. Am I a handful? Probably. My husband might say I take up both of his hands most days ;) I’m hard to understand. I do complicate things way more than I don’t. But he tries. I’ve had a really hard time lately – going through bouts of depression, feeling anxious, purposeless, and without a place. I’ve needed something…
My husband is not a man who gets carried away by emotion. He is practical. He doesn’t get caught up in deeper meanings and doesn’t always understand the way my mind – or my heart – works. Although he knows me inside and out in a general sense, he tends to struggle with “getting” what makes me tick when I go through these ups and downs within myself, but he does his best to love me the way I need to be loved whether it fully makes sense to him or not. He steps outside of his comfort zone to do what it takes to fulfill me.
I love him for that.
What’s This Series About Anyway??
I believe that strong marriages rely on three key elements:
- Love – unconditional
- Communication – uninterrupted
- Affirmation – uninhibited
Everything else stems from how healthy the couple is in those three areas. Because of this, I’ve started communicating my love for my husband through weekly affirmations… those simple statements of truth that let him know I see all the ways he expresses his love for me. I’ve written a lot about what kind of wife I am and how I love and support my husband. This is the other side of that :)
Read them all by clicking here: What I’m Loving!