This video on Facebook really hit me this morning. I remember asking myself COUNTLESS times over the years why my daddy didn’t want me, didn’t call me, didn’t care about me. I’m 31 years old and Father’s Day still hard for me. I try not to be bitter or to resent him, but it’s not easy. Emotions are hard to control…
This is why I adore my husband. There are too many children and adults in the world who can relate to this, including me. I’m so grateful that NONE of my husband’s kids will ever know what this feels like because no matter what happens he is selfless and does his best for them. As parents, in all honesty we aren’t always truly interested in what our kids are into, don’t always truly want to do everything we do for them and/or with them but we stay involved and do those things because we love them. Because that’s what parents do.
Instead of an hour flight to work this hitch, he made a 9 hour drive. On his way, he came with us to Six Flags for one last round of family time with the kids before leaving… so that him leaving was a little less sad since it was in the middle of a super fun day. He held Ava as she cried a little and told her he’d be back before she knows it. Gave the other babies a big hug and kiss before getting on the road. Because that’s what daddies do.
Why did he opt for a 9 hour drive? Because when he gets off the rig, instead of an hour flight home, he is driving 3.5 hours to pick to pick up his sons, driving another hour and a half to stay in a hotel with them for the weekend to attend a baseball tournament, then driving 7 hours home to have all the children together for his summer visit. When he gets home, he will have been away from home for 39 days. He’ll only have 17 days left, but his boys will know that what’s important to them matters to him. Because that’s what daddies do.
I’m so proud of my husband. Sometimes my heart hurts for him. He gives so much. He sacrifices so much. He works so hard. Yet he asks for so little. And he does it without complaining because he knows his family is taken care of and that he’s providing for his children and that his wife never has any worries and that gives him joy. He is the definition of a real man and I’m lucky to share my life with him, but even more importantly I’m in awe of everything he does to ensure that his children know their father cares.
I appreciate his effort, his spirit, and his hustle more than he knows! It’s the little things we do every day that I hope the kids all realize are because of him and wouldn’t be possible otherwise. He grinds hard for his family.
I love him for that.
What’s This Series About Anyway??
I believe that strong marriages rely on three key elements:
- Love – unconditional
- Communication – uninterrupted
- Affirmation – uninhibited
Everything else stems from how healthy the couple is in those three areas. Because of this, I’ve started communicating my love for my husband through weekly affirmations… those simple statements of truth that let him know I see all the ways he expresses his love for me. I’ve written a lot about what kind of wife I am and how I love and support my husband. This is the other side of that :)
Read them all by clicking here: What I’m Loving!