Barry has an uncanny ability to know when something is bothering me — sometimes even before I realize it myself. For the last few weeks, he’s heard something in my tone of voice and has continuously (and annoyingly LOL) asked me what was wrong. I finally told him to STOP asking me because nothing was wrong and I would let him know if something was.
Well, something was. I just didn’t know it outwardly yet. I had been discontent — feeling a certain kind of way, but it was more of just a nagging feeling than something I could really put my finger on and I kept brushing it off as me being moody because I wasn’t sleeping well.
The other day it all came to a head and BOOM… it overwhelmed me and I couldn’t ignore it any longer. I started talking to him about it and he didn’t quite understand all my rambling so he encouraged me to write a blog post about what I was feeling. I always think better when I write and it gives me a chance to really work out what’s in my heart/head so it ended up being a long-winded sharing of my identity crisis and talking about my need to be MYSELF — once I figure out who I am, that is.
Barry commented and told me to find myself whether that “me” is the me that I am or the me that I need to be and that he will always love me either way.
My husband gets me — even when I don’t get me.
I love him for that.
What’s This Series About Anyway??
I believe that strong marriages rely on three key elements:
- Love – unconditional
- Communication – uninterrupted
- Affirmation – uninhibited
Everything else stems from how healthy the couple is in those three areas. Because of this, I’ve started communicating my love for my husband through weekly affirmations… those simple statements of truth that let him know I see all the ways he expresses his love for me. I’ve written a lot about what kind of wife I am and how I love and support my husband. This is the other side of that :)
Read them all by clicking here: What I’m Loving!