Do you guys remember that song by Jewel “Pieces of You”? She talks about various groups of people — an ugly girl, a pretty girl, a homosexual and a Jew — and presents those who hate them with the charge that it’s only because those groups of people are pieces of them. It’s important that you realize most of the negativity that you face in life actually has very little to do with you. That negativity that is directed toward you is normally due to the fear and insecurity that lives within the other person.
This song has some really simple lyrics, but one thing that I love about music is that the simplest words can hold so much power by the way they are arranged and how they are conveyed. “Pieces of You” gives us a glimpse into human nature – into the idea that people can have such contempt, such HATRED for someone else for no other reason than they are who they are. No real reason … they just exist and for that, they are hated. Keep in mind that most of the time the things people act like they don’t like about you are actually things that they aren’t comfortable with people knowing about THEM.
If someone acts like they take an issue with something about you and you can’t figure out why they even have an opinion about it, I would be willing to bet that is only because that person WISHES that they could reflect that part of themselves, but for some reason they are locked in their little box and can’t come out so they hate you for not being trapped like them. They hate that *thing* about you because it’s pieces of them. Don’t let anybody get you down – when people attack you without warrant, there’s always something underlying that is driving it and you’ll never know what it is.
We spend so much of our lives trying to be liked… trying to be accepted… looking for approval and for what? In the end, all of those people who didn’t like you, didn’t accept you and made you feel insecure are just people. Just people like you — people who have been disliked and insecure themselves. No one is immune to the harshness of our society, but as Beyonce’s character in The Fighting Temptations puts it, “When life makes you have to put up with mean & hateful people, just think of them as sandpaper. They may scratch you, rub you the wrong way, but eventually you end up smooth & polished. And the sandpaper? It’s just gonna be worn out & ugly.”