This week, I’m loving that my husband LISTENS to me. Whether I’m whispering or screaming, he doesn’t just hear me talking. He listens. I love that my husband understands my many sides and he doesn’t fault me for being who I am. There are times when I am overwhelmed from life in general and irritable after too few hours of sleep and I absolutely lose it and nine times out of ten, instead of getting defensive and hopping on the other side of a war with me, he doesn’t pay attention to how I say things, but rather what I’m saying. He doesn’t get upset when I’m unfair in taking my frustrations out on him, but he knows that I need to just get it all out.
In the other one-out-of-ten times that he actually does jump on the other side of an argument, he’s normally the one who takes the lead and gets us back on the same page. He “gets” that I’m a woman — that I am a lot more emotionally involved in situations than he is and as such, I react emotionally a LOT of the time; that my feelings are a lot more fragile than his are so I get offended much easily than he does; that there are certain days when hormones are playing a much larger role than the norm — and he gets me through the rough patches by being patient and loving me in spite of myself, just the way God called him to.
I love him for that.
What’s This Series About Anyway??
I believe that strong marriages rely on three key elements:
- Love – unconditional
- Communication – uninterrupted
- Affirmation – uninhibited
Everything else stems from how healthy the couple is in those three areas. Because of this, I’ve started communicating my love for my husband through weekly affirmations… those simple statements of truth that let him know I see all the ways he expresses his love for me. I’ve written a lot about what kind of wife I am and how I love and support my husband. This is the other side of that :)
Read them all by clicking here: What I’m Loving!