It’s unfortunate that so many black women seem to be surprised by the fact that I can do my kids’ hair. I’m constantly being asked who did the girls’ hair. Um, me. Then there’s this look of shock. Then they tell me WOW you did a good job! What this tells me is that these women have seen one too many white mothers with biracial children who take absolutely NO initiative to try to figure out what to do with their heads. Seriously, people. If your kids have hair drastically different than what you’re used to, LEARN HOW TO CARE FOR IT! And for God’s sake stop running around with your babies looking like someone should be turning them upside down to mop the floor with the wooly thing that’s sitting on top of their scalp!
Here are some tips for you:
- Learn WHY what you’re doing is breaking their hair and stop breaking it cause all those split ends popping out everywhere is a mess
- Flat iron it and clip those ends every now and then or take them to the hairdresser and let her do it
- Slap some type of moisturizer in there at night and find a good kind that doesn’t get sucked into their hair – it shouldn’t totally frizz up by the end of the day!!!
- Comb it out EVERY DAY so it doesn’t get matted up ESPECIALLY at the nape of their neck but don’t freaking brush it when it’s dry!! Wet it. Get yourself a spray bottle and stop trying to force the brush through their dry tangles. You’re ripping their hair :( Poor hair…
- Figure out how frequently it NEEDS to be washed — 2 times a week? 3? Washing it every day WILL dry it out, but it will take some time to really get a feel for how long you need to go in between washing. It’s different for a couple of my girls. Once there has been a lot of product added for a couple of days in a row, WASH IT but if you start washing it too frequently and notice that it’s drying out, take a hint…
- Be sure to condition that stuff regularly! Don’t just apply the conditioner and rinse it, either. Leave it in for a few minutes… better yet, use leave-in conditioner but just make sure you’re not overdoing it because that stuff sometimes gunks up especially in the area that their ponytail is if you keep it ponied-up a lot which can make it pull when you try to comb through it (ouch)
- Quit putting the rubberbands in there so tight that their skin looks like it’s been run over by a steamroller because sores will eventually develop that can get infected and cause your baby some avoidable misery
- MOST importantly: STOP PUTTING UNNECESSARY CHEMICALS IN THERE… MOST biracial kids do not have the same texture hair as children who have two black parents and as such, when you put chemicals in their heads that is too harsh, it will DAMAGE their hair! Most of the black parents I know don’t even use chemicals in their kids’ hair unless it is absolutely necessary (and in my opinion it’s always healthier and prettier when it’s natural so long as it’s CARED FOR) so you should seriously pump the brakes.
- Just TRY. A little effort… that’s all I’m saying.
My girls have beautiful hair because it is WELL CARED FOR… please have enough gumption about yourself to be able to say the same! This is not a diss toward anybody and I hope that no one takes offence, but I’m just trying to be real. It’s crazy to me that anyone can look at their child KNOWING they look horrid and just ignore it because they don’t know what to do with their hair. Two words: Google. YouTube. Now get it right.
A mom who is proud of her biracial babies’ heritage and as such wants to help maintain the health of their hair so they can rock that good hair instead of looking like a dark skinned Raggedy Ann!